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A lingam massage, also known as a tantric penis massage, is a profound erotic experience where pleasure, awareness and healing come together. It is the male counterpart to the yoni massage.

Unlike a regular erotic massage, a lingam massage is about much more than arousal alone. This form of touch invites deep relaxation, allowing sexual energy to flow and experiencing arousal that does not end in a quick climax, but is instead sustained for longer. It helps you connect with deeper layers of yourself - physically, emotionally and energetically.

In this article, you will learn how to perform a lingam massage step by step.

What is a lingam?

The term "lingam" comes from Sanskrit and symbolises creative, masculine energy. In tantra, it refers to the penis, but not purely as a physical organ - it represents life energy, the power of desire, love and connection.

A lingam massage therefore focuses on much more than just physical pleasure: it is about conscious feeling, allowing energy to flow and discovering new forms of orgasm, even without ejaculation.

The concept behind the lingam penis massage

During a tantric lingam massage, your partner or masseur applies techniques to activate your erogenous zones. This loving touch creates sexual arousal, but in a different way than you may be used to: deeper, more intense and slower.

Where most sexual experiences for men end in a brief climax, this massage teaches you how to circulate the energy throughout your body. You discover the difference between an orgasm and an ejaculation, and how you can continue to experience arousal without immediately reaching ejaculation.

The goal is not to make you climax as quickly as possible, but to let you feel completely. Your entire body is involved in this experience, allowing you to enjoy prolonged waves of pleasure.

A good lingam penis massage deepens not only the connection with yourself, but often also with your partner. You develop greater awareness, relaxation and control, leading to more pleasure and intimacy in your love life.

Not climaxing, but prolonged waves of orgasm

An important part of the lingam massage is the conscious build-up of tension, without it being released immediately. You are repeatedly brought to the edge of ejaculation, only to slow down or pause again. This keeps the sexual energy active in your body and allows you to experience deep, prolonged waves of orgasm.

Through this technique, your stamina grows, stress is reduced and space is created for healing - not only physically, but also emotionally and energetically.

Who is a lingam penis massage suitable for?

A lingam massage can be very valuable for any man who is open to more conscious sexuality. But certainly also when you are dealing with:

The massage helps you release tension, feel your body better and regain confidence in your sexual energy.

Getting started with a lingam massage

A good lingam massage requires attention, attunement and a certain finesse. It is not a standard hand job, but a loving ritual where touch, breathing, energy and feeling come together.

There are professional providers in abundance, but most are not serious tantra practitioners. There are quite a few sex workers and massage parlours that sell 'ordinary' sexual massage as lingam massage. But a lingam massage should be performed with care, attention and love, and with the necessary knowledge and skill, and that is usually hard to find with them.

Would you like to learn to give or receive it yourself? Then good instructions are essential. In this article you will find an explanation of the structure and techniques. For more depth, we recommend additional materials such as books or instructional videos. Below you can read what our favourites are.

Example of a Lingam Massage

To give you an idea of how a lingam massage works, and to help you get started, here is a brief description:

Step 1: Preparation

The massage begins with good preparation. Create a comfortable space with a pleasant temperature and atmospheric lighting. Keep practical aids, such as a good massage oil or a good lubricant (less greasy) within reach.

Step 2: Body massage

The session begins with a body massage to become physically and mentally relaxed. The type of massage differs from person to person; one person prefers a firmer massage to warm up and loosen the muscles, while another prefers gentle touches to get into the right state of mind. The important thing is to arrive and stay in the "here and now". Proper, deep breathing is also important here.

> Tips for giving an erotic body massage.

Step 3: Massaging the area around the lingam

Apply a generous amount of massage oil. First massage the inside of the thighs with massage oil. Massage with light strokes and gradually increase the pressure. Ask what he finds most pleasant and adjust your massage accordingly. Then gently massage the testicles and pay close attention to his reaction. Sensitivity varies considerably from man to man.

Step 4: Massaging the lingam

After the testicles, it is time for the lingam - the penis. Massage the shaft and bring plenty of variation to the massage. For example, regularly change tempo, combine the up and down movement with small twists to the left or right, use two hands, then one. Sometimes use the left hand, then the right hand. Keep varying the rhythm, pressure, speed and methods. Use different lingam massage techniques.

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Example of a massage technique (see illustration)

Alternating with your left and right hand, make 10 downward strokes towards the base of the penis. Then make 10 upward strokes from the base to the tip of the penis. Done? Then do the same, now not 10 but 9 times, then 8 times. Until finally 1 time.

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Another example of a lingam massage technique

This technique is also called the lemon technique. First, gently pull back the foreskin with the left hand. Then massage the glans with the other hand. Gently squeeze and twist, making movements as if you were squeezing a lemon or orange. Vary the pressure. Start with gentle pressure and slowly increase it. Be careful though - too much pressure can be unpleasant. For more variation, you can let your left hand gently slide back and forth over the shaft of the penis.

Keep paying attention and slow down or stop at the right moment

Keep paying close attention and slow down or stop what you are doing when the man is about to climax. This can usually be predicted by watching his breathing, moaning and tensing muscles. You can also ask the man to indicate when he is about to climax. When the man is about to climax, you can stop or slow down, but you can also apply the finishing massage technique described in point 8 in between.

It is not a problem if the penis becomes half-flaccid when you stop the massage - that is actually the intention. By being brought to near-climax repeatedly, the man can experience a recurring orgasm.

More about lingam massage techniques

There are various massage techniques you can use to bring the man to the edge of climax again and again, and it is impossible to cover them all in this article.

  • For that, we recommend this DVD, which covers lingam and yoni massage in detail.
  • Prefer a book? Then there is Erotische Massage.

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Step 5: End the massage

This usually happens by letting the man climax, although that is not strictly necessary. In any case, take your time, even after ejaculation. A lingam massage is an intense experience and it is good to take time to recover from it. A good finishing massage technique is the following: Move your fingertips lightly from the crown of the head to the fingers, then make the same light stroking movements from the crown to the toes. End with your hands on his feet and hold your hands there for a few minutes.

More than a hand job

A lingam massage is something different from a regular hand job. There is quite a bit more to it. It is a beautiful example of tantric sex where attention, love and sexual pleasure go hand in hand, leading to a better sex life for him and for her. It is fun and more than worth exploring further.

And do not forget the rest of the body either - massage the abdomen, arms and legs with some regularity.

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Frequently Asked Questions

What is a lingam massage?

A lingam massage focuses on the penis but also treats the rest of the body to provide pleasure and relieve physical and mental pain.

What is the difference between a lingam massage and a regular penis massage?

A tantric lingam massage does not focus on reaching ejaculation as quickly as possible, but rather on sustained orgasm and experiencing intense sexual pleasure.

Is a Lingam massage the same as a tantra massage?

No, a Lingam massage focuses specifically on the penis and pelvic area, while tantra massages are broader and encompass the entire body and energetic connections.

Do you need experience to give a Lingam massage?

No, beginners can also give a Lingam massage. The most important thing is that you take your time, are respectful and communicate well.

How long does a lingam massage last?

A full lingam massage usually lasts between 60-90 minutes, including preparation, body massage and the actual lingam massage.

Which oil or lubricant is best for lingam massage?

Use a natural massage oil such as coconut oil or a special silicone-based lubricant. Avoid oils with artificial fragrances that may cause irritation.

How long does a lingam massage take?

A lingam massage takes an average of 30 to 60 minutes. Take your time with the build-up and do not rush. It is not about the end result but about the entire process of relaxation and connection.

8 comments

mijn partner vind mijn massages zo oké ik begin aan de binnenkant van dijen, ga zo naar het pernineum is zo gespannen ook daar onderaan en heb daar geen opleiding voor gevolgd zit gewoon in mij om dat te doen hij heeft een zeer pezig lichaam ook als hij op zijn buik ligt begin ik bovenaan van achterhoofd nek en zo naar benden heeft dan vrijwel direct ook een erectie

Anoniem

Ik lees voor t eerst over deze massage. Tot mijn verrassing blijkt dat ik deze heerlijke massage kortgeleden aan mijn partner gegeven te hebben. Ik had zijn benen gemasseerd nav de opleiding wellnessmassage die ik volg en ben overgegaan in deze massage. Hij zei nog nooit zoveel orgasmes ervaren te hebben. Heerlijk gevoel voor ons beide. Nu de Yoni massage nog proberen ;-)

Anoniem

Ik heb zo’n lingam massage nooit gehad , maar ik denk dat ik bij zo’n massage zomaar klaar zal komen , wat juist het verdere plezier zal af nemen.

Anoniem

Heel leuke uitleg en vooral de benadrukking dat een yoni of lingam massage niet bedoeld is om zo snel mogelijk klaar te komen maar juist kan zorgen voor de beleving van meerdere orgasmes en vooral langduriger en intenser.
De massage helpt ook bij het verwerken en/of verbeteren van door stress veroorzaakte lichamelijke maar ook geestelijk ongemak.
Ben door het lezen geïnteresseerd geraakt en bestel dan ook zeker de dvd.

m.vr.gr. Adrie Derks

Anoniem

mijn partner vind mijn massages zo oké ik begin aan de binnenkant van dijen, ga zo naar het pernineum is zo gespannen ook daar onderaan en heb daar geen opleiding voor gevolgd zit gewoon in mij om dat te doen hij heeft een zeer pezig lichaam ook als hij op zijn buik ligt begin ik bovenaan van achterhoofd nek en zo naar benden heeft dan vrijwel direct ook een erectie

Anoniem

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